Friday, February 04, 2011

Please pardon our appearance while we work on our anonymity.

I have always taken care on this blog to disguise the identity of our family, both us and more-so our kids, but please bear with me as I revamp it anyway. Due to the recent troubles facing another blogger in our line of parenting, I have created a new system of anonymity for my own blog and am implementing it post-by-post. Therefore, almost all of my posts are currently in draft (those that already contain nothing I wish to change are left up). I will be going through from the beginning and re-posting each one. This has already been a major pain, having done a great deal of editing already, but I refuse to take this blog down. It's too valuable. Foster parents need the support of others who have been in their shoes. Because there are so few of us, and especially in certain places, it can be extremely difficult to connect with other FPs. It is priceless to be able to read about others' experiences, commiserate with them, learn from each other, and have a truly knowledgeable sounding board. It is in the interest of foster children for foster parents to be able to access this kind of support online. So, I'm here. There are just going to have to be some changes. For the sake of explanation, they will be as follows:
*I have always altered certain details that pertain to our kids, but I am enhancing this. The important aspects of the story are still there, but most circumstantial details are falsified.
*I will be using the term BP for any birthparent and refer to them using the gender neutral pronouns ey, eir, em, eirself. I know this is going to be annoying because it's different, but once you get used to it, it's easy. Just take the plural form of "they" and shorten it. BP has issues but ey loves eir child. Other people can try to help em, but these are issues ey will have to work out for eirself. I know. But it's the least annoying of all the gender-neutral pronoun sets I found.
*I will be using the alias "Lynn". I will refer to my wife as "Rae". These are not our names, but each one has certain significance to us, so I will not find it difficult to stick to.
*I have deleted the link to my new blog about our baby, as I will not be able to be as anonymous there. Please email me and briefly explain who you are, if you don't have it and wish to follow along there.
This is only a temporary post, in itself. I will delete it when I am done revising, and include a reference guide to the above alterations in the sidebar so that new readers can understand me (and older ones can remind themselves if they forget!) My apologies, but this revamp is probably going to take a very long time, as I have other priorities going at the moment, but I hope you won't mind a long stroll (crawl) down memory lane as I sift through our history to leave you with what is most important. Thank you again for being out there!

Tuesday, September 07, 2010

Goodnight, baby.

I just put Buddha to bed for the last night. After his favorite stories and my favorite lullabyes, he fell asleep in my arms. He hasn't done that in ages, having grown out of it by about 18 months, but I guess he was good and tired tonight. I'm really grateful for that.
On a different note, I want to make a little query. If you are a reader who knows me IRL (in real life), would you please leave a comment? So far, I only know of a fellow foster parent and I know my sister, derangels, used to read- not sure if you still do, sis. If there are others, I'd like to be clued in! Thanks.

Thursday, September 02, 2010

When birthday parties are going away parties.

Buddha has officially celebrated two birthdays in our family. He had a good time with his little friend, loved his cake, enjoyed all his presents and went to bed late. My mother made him a wonderful quilt. I can't believe he's two. I want to see him be three and four and more. We're truly going to miss him. He leaves next week.

Monday, August 16, 2010

Food of Enlightenment

Buddha's new favorite snack is rice cakes. He is also obsessed with the only video he's ever seen which is a National Geographic-type DVD we have about birds. Every day when he gets home from daycare he runs in the house, asks for a "Gai Gake" and sits down to prepare for his career in Ornithology. Sometimes he insists on wearing his straw bowler hat.
Cutest. Child. Ever.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Happy Ostara!

Just a quick wish for a blessed spring equinox for everyone. We've got eggs and flowers and butterflies mixed with baby-shower-planning galore over here in fostermamas' house! Still hoping for a little devotional time this week. Happy spring!

Friday, October 17, 2008

The evolving conversation

We go through an approximation of the following conversation on at least a daily basis, but the punchline was new today:

Prancer: You Kate.
Me: Uh huh.
Prancer: I a boy.
Me: Yep.
Prancer: You a mommy.
Me: Yes, I am.
Prancer: I a foster kid.
Me: Yes, you are.
Prancer: Yaaaay!

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Well put, kiddo.

Prancer: Can I have strawberry wafers?
Me: No. We don't have any.
Prancer: Why?
Me: Why didn't we get any at the store today?
Prancer: Because I didn't listen. `Cause I drive you nuts!


Oh, and he wants Barbie dolls for Christmas.